We’ve all heard the old cliché, “everything happens for a reason.” On some level I believe this to be true, and this belief has helped me accept many challenging events in my life.
 
Other times, I feel it can also be an excuse to spiritually bypass some big life lessons that we could benefit from.
 
One of many things I love about my work, is I am blessed to help people turn their life experiences into rocket fuel. What I mean by that is, I help them listen to how it could serve them, process the emotions and energy that has been created from this life event, and then use it for their greatest purpose and path forward.
 
In other words, I help people turn their woundedness into wisdom. 
 
Why is this important?
 
It could be so easy, especially during the times that we’re living in now, to be inundated with negative thoughts, get caught up in the constant media and news available to us, which then creates yucky emotions.  All of this energy bogs us down and keeps us from true joy and happiness.
 
Add to the equation all of the things that “happen” to us such as death, divorce, health challenges and more that feel out of our control.
 
It’s up to each of us to create the life that we desire and came here to live. I feel it is our responsibility (& we are more than well equipped for the journey), to show up and do the inner work so that it reflects in our outer world.
 
I am four years into turning the wound of losing my only sibling and precious brother into wisdom. It is the hardest thing that I’ve ever done and yet I know it’s part of my path.

It’s up to me to stay the course, have the awareness, welcome the healing and then I get to choose what I do with this wisdom.  It is a process that is well worth investing in.
 
I can stay stuck in my grief and let it eventually sit in my body and age me and not be living my life fully….OR…. I can take this wound and alchemize it into helping others on their grieving journey.
 
We may not have control of some our life circumstances, but we are at choice in how we process and handle them.  As humans, we certainly all have wounds.  It’s how we handle them that counts.

It’s 2006 and I’m sitting in a quaint auditorium in New York City with 250 other women from around the world. I had signed up for the ‘School of Womanly Arts’ after my friend had gifted me Regena Thomashauer’s book when my husband suddenly passed away three years earlier.

One of her teachings involved getting in touch with your heart’s desires. The definition of desire is:  a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.

When we were first given the assignment to write our desires down, I felt paralyzed. And honestly it surprised me. I felt this tightness in my chest and a protective shield around my heart.  I was scared because I could not feel or access what it is I truly wanted in my life. I was shut down.

Sure, I had been experiencing a lot of grief and life changes at the time, but it was even deeper than that. I came to the realization that it had been a very long time (if ever), since I had allowed myself to take the time and go within and feel, know and name my deepest wants, needs and desires.  From this awareness I committed myself to dive deeper into what externally wasn’t working for me anymore and what my own internal blocks were.

When we ignore our true desires, it creates issues in our lives. We aren’t in alignment with our true selves, our relationships suffer, we can experience anxiety &/or depression, we stay stuck in work that is unfulfilling, our health is challenged and so on.

As time went on and I continued to melt the barriers and release the layers of old, stuck energy, my heart desires came through in all areas of my life.

Naming what I wanted in my life and aligning with that knowing changed EVERYTHING!

My healing practice shifted in profound ways (I even opened a practice in NYC)
My work went global
I connected with my life partner
I made new friends which are still in my life to this day
My time spent with my family and loved ones was more genuine and fun
I had the courage to let things go that were no longer in alignment with my heart
I traveled to Greece, Italy, Spain, Norway, British Columbia, Bahamas and more
I felt more alive than ever before

I said YES over and over again to what it was I truly wanted and the magic kept happening!

And I want the same for you!

Knowing and naming what we want in our life is really important.  From this place you can then take action.

So let’s take a go at it… take out your journal or notepad and write down 3 things that you truly desire. Even if you think you could never have them. Then take one baby step towards making it happen.

Hit repy and let me know at least one!
I would love to hold the space for that to come zooming your way💫💥

Want to release your protective layers and go deeper in naming and knowing your desires?  

Here’s to living the life of your dreams,

Several years ago, I had a healing practice in New York City. I would fly from Florida once a month and spend a week treating 35 clients. I realized during that time in my practice that most people were working on the same issue/topic in different ways. This is when I was guided to started looking for themes, and I have been looking for them ever since.
 
The theme that is really standing out to me right now in my 1:1 Healing Sessions is Forgiveness.
 
The topic comes up again and again and the opportunity to clear out shame, guilt, anger, resentment, etc. is front and center.
 
When I mention forgiveness, some of my clients respond with, “I’m not ready to forgive or I don’t want to forgive.”  Or “that was a long time ago, etc.”  The resistance can be palpable because they don’t even know where to start and they are afraid to feel. 
 
Most people don’t realize that our inability to forgive, is a way to protect ourselves.  We naturally withdraw and withhold our love and joy because we’ve been hurt in some way or form.
 
Once I explain to my clients the benefits of releasing this energy that is stored in their cells, and how much it will serve them in feeling better physically, mentally and emotionally, they are more open to the experience. 
 
Often times, forgiveness isn’t about forgiving another person, it’s about forgiving ourselves. No matter who or what we are called to forgive, it always serves us first. 
 
The key word in learning to forgive is the willingness to forgive.  I have found time and time again, that when someone is willing, just willing, magic occurs. 
 
As Gerald G. Jampolsky says, “Our willingness to take that journey and cross the bridge, brings us into our own spiritual essence and into a new space of expansion, transformation and unconditional love.”
 
So I ask you…”What is one thing you’ve never forgiven yourself for?”
 
Yes, that thing. That situation or episode that you hold close to your heart.  Perhaps a secret you are keeping covered by hurt and shame?  The circumstance you are tucking away.  The thing you are protecting yourself from.
 
Are you ready to no longer suffer, to heal your heart and soul?  To set yourself free?
 
Forgiveness is a way out of darkness and into the light. 
Forgiveness is the most powerful healer of all.
 
The theme for my next Sacred Healing Circle is Forgiveness.
 
When we gather, you don’t have to interact with anyone else.  It’s your private time to go within and have your own healing experience.  You can however, share or listen to others at the end when I stop the recording and open up the space.

I had a dream last night that I was holding a somatic retreat. You know the kind of dream, when you wake up and it takes a few minutes to feel into if it was real or not?

As an Intuitive Energy Healer and SomatoEmotional Release Specialist, one of the core aspects of my work focuses on releasing stored emotions in the body.

Our bodies are like historians, they record and tuck away our history in our cells/energy field.

The body also remembers what the mind forgets. Therefore, our life experiences can be stored in the subconscious.  We might not be walking around thinking about something anymore, but it can still be affecting us on a day-to-day basis.

I am a strong believer that if we don’t acknowledge and feel our feelings, our body feels them for us.

In Dr. John Diamond’s book “Your Body Doesn’t Lie”, he states “I have come to believe that all illness starts as a problem on the energy level, a problem that may exist for many years before it manifests itself in physical disease.” 

When I had a health challenge in my early 30’s, I intuitively knew that it had an underlying emotional component.  I visited holistic/alternative doctors, studied with herbalists, shamans, immersed myself in breathwork, psychotherapy, craniosacral therapy and somotoemotional release (SER).

It was the SER work that I fell in love with and is a big part of my healing practice today. Little did I know how this healing journey would propel me forward into my life’s work.

“Soma” is Greek for “body.”  The definition of somatic is relating to or affecting the body.

Dr. John Upledger, (my teacher/mentor and founder of The Upledger Institute), says “SomatoEmotional Release (SER) is the expression of emotion that has been retained, suppressed and isolated within the Soma/Body.”

In my last newsletter, I shared with you how my dad came to see me on Father’s Day. We were having a nice visit and yet over the course of time, topics came up that were challenging and old stored emotions in my subconscious bubbled up to the surface. I released a lot of rage and anger that I had been hanging onto. Some of it I was aware of and some it I wasn’t.

A few days later, I realized that my hip pain was gone!  Yes gone!  I had been tossing and turning every night for months and had difficulty walking and sitting a lot of the time. Feeling and expressing my emotions shifted the energy in my body and helped me heal.

I see this time and time again, but it still astounds me!

 I have always loved the month of February. 

 It is the month of cold weather and all things hearts💓💓💓.

 It’s the time of year where I check in with myself and see what needs to come back into balance and what I need to align with in order to live the life I deeply desire.

 It’s a reminder for me to “listen” to how I expend my energy and “feel” into ways that are more nurturing and honoring to my body, mind and spirit.
 
I ask myself these questions:
 
How do I feel in my body?
Where do I need to course correct so I have my back around my commitments?
Am I having fun?
Taking time off?
What could bring me more joy?
Am I allowing myself to receive?
Am I connecting with family, friends, and colleagues?
 
After the sudden passing of my beloved brother, I just KNEW that I could not move forward or survive this profound loss alone. Grief can be VERY isolating. I decided to dig deep and put myself in places where I could not only receive support but build community.
 
I joined a grief group via zoom, a membership community I resonated with, reached out to my closest friends, had regular visits with my therapist and made a commitment to myself that I would not go it alone.
 
It was not my natural tendency to immerse myself in groups or put myself in vulnerable situations. It was an act of self-love.
 
I grew up feeling unsafe to share my feelings or be seen. When I reflect back, I realize I tried to figure everything out myself, When I was 10 years old and my parents were going through a divorce, I would walk across the street and spend hours laying on the ground in the pine needles attempting to soothe myself. 
 
What happened instead, is I held the confusion, despair, sadness, uncertainty and panic in my body. This energy stayed with me and created imprinting and neuropathways from which I operated my daily life for years/decades (more on imprinting later.)
 
This is one of the reasons I feel I was drawn to specialize in releasing trauma from the body in my Intuitive Energy Healing practice. 
 
Leaning into and receiving support has cracked my heart open. It has been an act of self- love that helped me emerge from the darkness.
 
I hear from my clients every day in my healing sessions how much fear, grief, sadness, uncertainty and loneliness they have been experiencing during these trying times. 
 
We have ALL had so many challenges and much change these past few years.
 
We not only have the opportunity to heal ourselves, but in doing so, we also help heal the collective.
 
Now, more than ever we need to lean into each other.
 
 

 
 
I’d love to hear where you lean into support and how you are going to love yourself deeper💖
 
Just hit reply and let me know!
 
Oceans of love,